Posts in Relationships
Spiritual PTSD

inter Gwen and I were privileged to share some extended time with a group of pastors and wives.  While we were one of my fellow pastors gave a devotional that I found to be insightful, and I've been thinking about it ever since.

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The 5 Best Books I Read in 2021

Most pastors I know are inveterate bibliophiles. They know that great books can provide information, inspiration, and illustrations.

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Appreciation and Joy

Ever since Thanksgiving, I’ve been pondering an intriguing Scripture verse. Psalm 126:3 reads, The Lord has done great things for us and we are filled with joy.”

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Celebrating Your Wins

Some time back I came across a quote (sorry, but I don’t know where it originated) that really marked me. It read…If you never celebrate your wins, it will seem like you’re always losing.

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Letting Church Staff Go

One of the most painful aspects of the post-pandemic church has been its numerical contraction. Attendance is down across the board. And with that, giving is down across the board.

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Crockpot Leadership

In his fine book, Canoeing the Mountains, Tod Bolsinger describes the outstanding leadership of Meriwether Lewis and William Clark as they led their Corps of Discovery in search of a northwest passage to the Pacific Ocean

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Handling a Toxic Staff Member

Nothing will slow down a growing church faster than a toxic staff member. What makes a person toxic? One definition is that it’s an individual who is unsupportive, negative, or even abusive.

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The Unsent Angry Letter

A few years back, Maria Konnikova wrote an article in the New York Times titled, “The Lost Art of the Unsent Angry Letter.” The idea is that if you’re upset at something or someone, you write a detailed, unedited response – and then you stick it in a drawer until you’ve cooled off.

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What Your Non-Christian Neighbors are Looking For

I was quite surprised to read that, according to a recent Gallop poll, 87% of Americans say they believe in God. This is not to say that they are religious, much less churchgoers. They probably aren’t.

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Pursuing the Wandered Sheep

One of the most common questions being asked by church leaders these days is, “When will all of our Sunday morning attendees come back?” Put another way, “When will all of our scattered sheep return to the fold?”

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Clues That Someone is About to Leave Your Church

In looking back at my years of being a lead pastor, one of the hardest issues to handle was when an individual or family would leave.

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Of Screens and Phubbing

Screens dominate our lives. TV screens, computer screens, smartphone screens, tablet screens, gaming screens, video conference screens. We are screened like no other generation in history.

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Responding to the Signs of the Times

I came across a quote from a pastor named J.D. Greear recently that powerfully gripped me: “Those who care about the future of the Great Commission will devote themselves to multiplying and sending, not gathering and counting.”

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A Multiplying Mindset

I came across a quote from a pastor named J.D. Greear recently that powerfully gripped me: “Those who care about the future of the Great Commission will devote themselves to multiplying and sending, not gathering and counting.”

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