Posts tagged anger
The Unsent Angry Letter
The Unsent Angry Letter

A few years back, Maria Konnikova wrote an article in the New York Times titled, “The Lost Art of the Unsent Angry Letter.” The idea is that if you’re upset at something or someone, you write a detailed, unedited response – and then you stick it in a drawer until you’ve cooled off.

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Relationships, SkillsDave DeSelmEveryday Pastor, pastors, leader, leadership, church leaders, leadership development, Leadership, relationships, angry unsent letter, anger, angry letter, email, Lincoln, Abraham Lincoln, Calvin Coolidge, Maria KonnikovaComment
Why People Resist Change
Why People Resist Change

In my years of pastoring, I had to lead my organization through a lot of change - from major paradigm shifts to small operational adjustments. In that process, I’ve discovered a couple of key truths regarding change.

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Skills, RelationshipsDave DeSelmEveryday Pastor, pastors, leader, leadership, church leaders, positivity, change, leading change, leading through change, resistance, resisting change, organizational change, culture change, loss, sense of loss, grief, anger, anxiety, confusion, loss of power, loss of comfort, loss of control, loss of familiarity, loss of stability, validate, validationComment
Stress' Unintended Victims
Stress' Unintended Victims

The comments I’m hearing from the pastors I’m dealing with are growing in their consistency and intensity. They are all feeling overwhelmed (“The burden of leadership is so heavy!”, disillusioned (“I didn’t sign up for this!”), and perplexed (“I don’t know what steps to take!”).

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Relationships, Heart, SkillsDave DeSelmEveryday Pastor, pastors, relationships, stress, stressed out, family, conflict, anger, frustration, disgust, fear, forgive, forgiveness, seek forgiveness, apologize, Marcus Warner, Dr. Marcus Warner, Building Bounce, listen, listen for emotion, relational circuits, calming, quietingComment